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It is very important to take action if you want to create change. Change is a shift in your actions. If you want change, then you have to move through the transition process.
How do you break with some of your unhealthy habits? The only way that I have found that works in my own life is to beat an old habit with a new habit. For example, if you are used to staying quiet in a certain kind of situation, you can create change by speaking out every time you find yourself in such a situation again.
My experience has led to the following ways of crossing the river:
· Step by step: Use a row of stones in the water that leads to the other side. It looks like you are walking on water when you are really just walking on stones.
You have to know where the stones are. Somebody might tell you, or you'll have to figure it out alone. Walking on the stones means to find a way to your goal that is doable for you step by step.
· Support from others: Find the owner of a boat or ferry that will take you to the other side of the river.
Perhaps you can find someone who will help you attain your goal in a way that you wouldn't have been able to do alone. With the help of the other person, you will be able to cross the river more easily or faster.
· Swimming: If you can't find stones nor a boat or ferry, then you need to do it all alone by learning to swim and swimming across the river.
This is the hard way. If nothing else works, you can still fight for whatever you want by giving your all. It probably won't be easy, and it will cost you a huge effort. However, it is a possible way across the river.
· A person of authority that you trust: she or he will teach you what you need to know and tell you, "You just have to," no matter if you think you will make it or not.
This person just tells you "You have to," and you obey the command no matter what happens. In my life, this has already worked very well, because it automatically overcomes resistance and limitations.
You need to have a reason why you want to cross the river. If there is no reason, then it is not worth the energy to do it. Give me a reason why you want to cross the river, why you want to create change. What if creating that change would be about your life?
It IS about your life anyway.
Please allow me to give you a suggestion before you start taking action:
Don't think too much, just do it!
You wouldn't believe how many great plans have been destroyed by pure thinking that they are not being realistic and are impossible.
What will be the reward when you have made it across the river, when you have made the transition? A whole new life with unknown possibilities awaits you at the other side that is worth the ride. The other side is the place where you deserve to be and where you are meant to be. Crossing the river will bring you closer to the best version of your being.
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